A question for you… Have you ever found yourself driving on a one-lane road, stuck behind a sizable slow-moving vehicle; under your breath, cursing the driver for lost time, stress and issues likely to result? Only to have the tormentor eventually turn off – and reveal the true culprit; an unseen smaller car now creeping along just ahead of you…
Here’s the thing… What if grief, over time, is a bit similar? Much the same, we see the obvious obstruction in front of us. We are absolutely convinced that it’s grief that is blocking our way – causing such misery, frustration and pain. Yet, very much akin to the slow-moving large vehicle, what if what’s keeping you most debilitated and stuck is a very different culprit, yet to be realized?
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What if it’s not so much grief that’s keeping you stuck – as it is what you’ve been telling yourself?
And what if that’s incredibly fortunate for you because that makes you considerably more empowered to change things than you know? How is that even possible – you’re probably wondering… Given how you’ve been feeling, how can that possibly be??
Well… As it turns out, our perception is a powerful thing. It has the power to turn that which never actually existed into something that has always been. It has the power to imprison without bars; resulting in us being both prisoner and jailer. It has the power to rather effortlessly turn one or two baseless beliefs or fears into the basis for an unnecessarily sacrificed life.
Worse, that perception is never so unhinged as it is when we face the kind of psychological and emotional devastation that comes with an event like the devastating loss of someone we love with all our heart.
Everything is tainted and distorted. Everything we thought made sense – no longer does. Everything’s bleak, forbidding and seemingly completely beyond our control. Things appear hopeless and forever fragile. And no visible end to it all seems to be in sight - or possible even.
It is mired in this emotional state that our minds really begin to wreak havoc on us, on our doubts and fears, on the depths of despair we feel each day, on our perceived possibilities, or more accurately lack thereof, for the future.
And that’s the all too fertile ground from whence our most unchecked, limiting ingrained beliefs, and ultimately full-fledged harmful myths, have absolutely free rein to metastasize and grow.
I expose fourteen of these most common myths, keeping Survivors so psychologically and emotionally deflated, defeated and stuck – in my recently released grief recovery book, “14 Reasons You’re Not Letting Yourself Heal”. In the book, I debunk harmful, yet all too pervasive, myths such as:
'If I Lose The Grief, I'll Have Nothing'
'Recovery Means Leaving My Loved One Behind'
'I Deserve This Guilt; It's My Fault'
'As A Mom, I Was Supposed To Saved My Child'
Far too many of us, for far too many months, years and decades even, have been dramatically impacted by these (and other) well-entrenched, and often times paralyzing ingrained beliefs and damaging myths. And here's the real question... Could the same is true for you?
In other words... What if the real psychological roadblock, preventing you from ever even allowing yourself to reach out to get the help and insight needed; the real deterrent to once and for all getting YOU and your life back - and finally beginning to live in a healthier, more loving way again that best honors your lost loved one, isn't really grief itself anymore after all?
Just imagine the possibilities if, for you as well, this is so...
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14 Reasons - and grief will never be the same... >> 14ReasonsToHeal.com